I never thought I’d be able to say I was married twice. But I have. It’s happened. And like the bright, bubbly song from Spamalot – I’m looking on the bright side of life.

I’m grateful that my ex husbands are good fathers. They are supportive and engaged in their children lives. My kids have several places to go where they are loved and protected. And since it takes two to co-parent, I know I’m not the only reason why my children have parents who, while not married, co-parent and do it well. We’ve made mutual pacts to never speak ill of the other in front of the children. We are polite, even friendly, to each other when we have to communicate regarding the kids. The children don’t see us bicker or argue about who gets the child(ren) when. Our children don’t have the stress of having to choose sides. And that makes me incredibly grateful.

When it comes to my own step-parents, I’ve had a mixed bag. And recently, it’s hit home how important a loving step-parent is and how devastating rejection is for the child. So, I also have to say I’m grateful for my ex-husband’s wife. She’s never been unkind to me. She’s polite and friendly. I happen to like her very much. Why? Because she is good to my son. She tells him she loves him, gives him hugs and is a good influence in his life. I don’t feel threatened by her because I know how important having this in his life is. And I can tell he loves her as well. His affection for her is genuine. And that makes me a happy, grateful mom.

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