Lied To

Yesterday, I learned a good friend had lied to me. In a serious way. I’m not talking small stuff like, “does this make my butt look big?” white lie, but big, life implicating lies.

I’m a forgiving person. If you have a bad day and take it out on me, insult me, take my candy – I can forgive. I understand weakness and faults (we all have them), but lying? No. Not this. I might do the universal, “I forgive this person” and let it go, but let you back in my life? Share confidence? Make you an integral part of my life? No. This I can’t do.

Because once you betray me, once you begin the lying – once you break my trust, I can never trust you again. I’ve learned this through other relationships. When a trust has been severed, the pain is too deep, the chasm too wide. The foundation is flawed and anything built on it will not last.