A New Friend
I made a new friend today. In one email, in shared pain, we connected. I can’t thank you publicly yet, but thank you. I hate you went through what you did. I know you were hurt. But sharing has given me renewed fire to continue and peace for the journey. I understand and have confirmation I am ok and doing the right thing.
I hope someday we can meet. I would love to visit you. I hope you find happiness. You are worthy of love and joy. The one who hurt you is shallow and miserable and self-centered. He is unaware of anything but his own importance. The sad thing is – he isn’t very important at all.
Important people, people worth having around, can see beyond themselves and into the hearts of others. The people I want around me are the ones who care about others and put the ones they love above all else.
Thank you for being my friend. We may not have met in person, but there are parts of us that are the same. Much love and happiness,
Tawnya
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May 15th, 2009 at 10:50 am
Shared experience and pain are ok for the journey – and can make the basis for a connection.
Like the shared trauma of climbers, or alcoholics, or cancer survivors. You share something, but it doesn’t always translate into more than that.
Coming off the mountain – as intense an experience as it is, and as much as we want to “keep in touch,” we don’t. Every now and then, someone touches us beyond the single experience that we share.
But in life we have choices of where and with whom we spend time. While I can appreciate those with whom I have shared common experiences – often if given the chance of spending more time with them, or time with others – it is others. Rehashing old things is great for a party, “Do you remember when….” but not necessarily for more of a human investment than that. And that is ok. It really is ok.
We might even miss someone who dies, or we lose touch with for various reasons- but the test is always this — do you want to meet them -look them in the eye, and say -”hey, I know where you are coming from” or do they have sufficient interest to replace time you would spend with a friend
May 23rd, 2009 at 11:44 am
Tawnya,
What you wrote was so beautiful.
I am re reading The Path To Love by Deepak Chopra and what you said reminded me of the following passage:
“Love is the only blessing, and that means all love. If love is the ultimate reality, as the great teachers tell us, the slightest gesture of connection is a gesture of love. To reach across the wall of separation, whether to a friend , lover, family or stranger, is to act in the name of love, whether we consciously realize it or not.”
May 23rd, 2009 at 9:30 pm
Those are beautiful thoughts. Thank you for sharing that here….